A Father’s Letter

Today is Labor Day. For most people, this day represents a day off work, a holiday, a day to celebrate and be with family and have a cookout. But for your mother and me, Labor Day will never be that for us again. At least not entirely.

Today was the day that we should have been rushing off to the hospital so excited and blessed to be able to welcome you into the world – our incredible miracle of God, our first-born child. But that wasn’t to be. You and God had a different plan.

For the past week, your mother has been very emotional – crying at the drop of a hat, moody, and upset. I am the strong one, and I keep telling her that everything is going to be okay and that God has a plan and that we can’t let that horrible, sad event cripple us. And I was fine – I really was. Until today.

I remember this past February 12th when you left us. For me, Valentine’s Day will never be the same. I remember vividly the pain that your mother was going through. The confusion. The sadness. I remember driving home after 5 hours in the emergency room and just crying.

I remember feeling angry at the doctors. They had no answers. They STILL have no answers. I hear that’s common. But, for me, not ever knowing WHY this happened is the toughest part, because I want to fix the problem. I’m a fixer. When your mother needs something, I fix it. I come to the rescue. I try to be her super hero. Just like I wanted to be for you. But I couldn’t fix this. It wasn’t for me to fix.

So, I’m sitting here thinking about what could have been. I’m concerned about your mother. And I totally understand why she’s been so emotional. I guess the day actually had to arrive in order for me to start feeling the emotions I’ve been keeping inside these last 6 months. It feels good to write it out.

I keep thinking about what you could have been. Not knowing if you were going to be a little boy or a little girl leaves the possibilities endless. I like to think that you would be a musician, following after your mother and my footsteps – except so much better. Or, maybe a football star like your uncle and grandfather. A teacher like your mother and so many other members of our family? Maybe a politician…………….no, not a politician. Whatever you wanted to be, I know you would have been great.

R.I.P. Baby Goff. I love you very much and I am broken-hearted that I won’t get to meet you until we are together again in Heaven. I think about you all the time.

With all the love in my heart,

Your father

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10 comments on “A Father’s Letter
  1. Arianna says:

    Love you guys so so much and have been thinking about you for the past several days as this day approached. Please know that you are always in our thoughts and prayers, you are loved, and we are always here for you.

  2. Kimi says:

    Love you guys. Thinking of you often.

  3. Aunt Pam says:

    I will keep you in prayer. We understand.

  4. Margie says:

    WOW Mike! Thanks…That is how I was feeling too but just couldn’t put it in words!! You, Christine and Baby Goff have been in my thoughts and prayers! Sending Love and support!

  5. Aunt Julie says:

    I remember feeling that way too MIke. I wanted to know why. It was maddening for us. We understand and hurt for you both. I’m so proud of the man you have become and for the good husband you are to your wonderful Christine. Be strong and continue to keep the good strong faith that I know you have. We are sending prayers your way today! Love you both!

  6. Kristie says:

    Absolutely, amazingly beautiful.

    Late Reader. :o)

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My name is Goffzilla. I'm a dad to a beautiful toddler girl, handsome baby boy and a crazy cat, a husband to an amazing woman, and a home-brewer, music lover and technology nut. This is my life, and I'm loving every minute of it.

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